When emotions run high, memories become fuzzy, and verbal agreements often slip through the cracks. Writing things down creates a reliable record of conversations, decisions, and commitments, crucial during separation or divorce. Start by keeping a dedicated journal, whether a physical notebook or a password-protected digital document, where you log every important discussion: dates, times, attendees, and key points. If your ex-partner makes promises verbally, about custody exchanges, financial support, or property division, note the exact wording. For instance: “On June 5, 2025, at 10 a.m., you said you would transfer £500 for the car loan by June 10.” Such specificity clarifies misunderstandings and can be invaluable if disputes escalate. Beyond conversations, document incidents of conflict or aggression: note the date, location, and a brief description of what occurred. This objective evidence may be crucial in mediation, court proceedings, or protective orders. When co-parenting, maintain a shared online calendar with detailed logs: appointment times, drop-off changes, or behavioural notes about the children. Encourage your co-parent to do the same; overlapping entries highlight discrepancies. Saving emails, text messages, or social media exchanges can also reinforce your written record but be cautious about tone and content, avoid inflammatory language that could undermine your credibility. Finally, when drafting agreements, whether informal side agreements or official legal documents, always summarise them in writing and ask your ex-partner to acknowledge receipt, ideally in a follow-up email. By consistently writing things down, you protect your interests, create transparency, and reduce the likelihood of “he said, she said” disputes.

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